I am a thinker, I like to think, actually I absolutely love to think. Not all my thinking is useful though and sometimes I think myself into spirals that lead nowhere but further into frustration.
I find talking to others helps me move away from the downward spirals and opens up little doors that give me a way out. I am a self proclaimed habitual ruminator and though I have been working on not being a ruminator for many years I still find myself there sometimes.
The difference these days is I don't ruminate about ruminating, I find someone to talk to or I write in my journal or I give myself a time limit so my ruminating is boundaried. This way I can ruminate for a specific amount of time and then get on with my day.
I can turn down the volume of the ruminating, it is still a part of me but by giving myself permission to do it for a limited amount of time rather than criticising myself for it I am learning to accept myself and to keep growing and thriving.